The best time to get married is when you feel comfortable and confident in your job and personal life. Some relationship experts will tell you that age as a number is less important than age as experience. According to April Davis, the founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking, “There isn't necessarily a best age to get married, but there definitely is a best time to get married. The best time to get married is when you feel comfortable and confident in your job and personal life. If you were to give yourself an exact age, you might find that you settle for whomever you're with at that age.”

 

For some, the best time to think about settling down is in your late 20s, when different parts of your life often start to make more sense and you feel more stable. According to Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and the founder of Christian Crush, getting married in your late 20s has its perks, since by that age you have had time to complete your education and get your career off the ground. Plus, Fisher says, by then you might be bored with the bar scene and the single lifestyle and feel eager to meet "the one."

 

From a neurological standpoint, Kelsey Torgerson, a licensed clinical social worker, says that waiting until your brain has fully developed (at age 25) is important. “I believe it’s best to wait until this marker,” she says. “It’s also important to experience stressors with your partner that you overcome, so if you have a high school sweetheart, you should see how you two handle college, long distance, studying abroad, or getting two jobs. You want to know that you have the conflict management strategies in place for a healthy, successful marriage down the road.”  

But when it comes to the best age for men to recite their vows, Cullins says it’s 32. “Waiting until age 32 affords men an opportunity to get settled into a career and potentially pursue professional advancement before tying the knot,” says Cullins. “It also gives them an opportunity to develop socially and emotionally through living on their own and dating. By 32, many men have spent enough time on the social scene to be able to make an informed decision about entering into married life. They also tend to have a sober perspective about having children and their role in co-parenting. This benefits the overall health of the relationship.”

 

 

Certain factors that will guide you to when it is a good time to get married.

1. You work in a somewhat stable job, stable career, and make at least enough money to take care of yourself (in the US this would be like 35K and up for a single person, maybe more depending if you live in a big city- I’d suggest more 55–60K in this situation). Money is not everything but to a certain degree it provides comfort and security.
2. You have been dating someone for at least 6 months, maybe a year and you both have similar life goals, values, and love being around each other
3. Your partner has a career, in grad school with goals to work in academia or go back into the job market, or plans to be a full time homemaker and has these homemaker skills down pat. Basically the person you are dating seems to have at least a semi-clear map of what they want in their life and isn’t constantly changing their ideas or confused about who they are and what they want.
4. You have met the families of each person and even if you don’t get along with your potential in-laws the relationship is ok between you and them.
5. You feel you can tell your partner everything and even if they disagree with you, you can sit down and have a conversation. Even if you have a fight or argument you can talk about it then hiding stuff, thinking it will go away. Stuff eventually can be discussed
6. For the most part your morals/religion/ethics are the same. It’s extremely hard to marry someone who disagrees with you on fundamental stuff like religion, ethics, etc.
7. You love yourself or at least are working hard to love yourself and understand yourself. “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell can you love anybody else,” - Ru Paul Charles
8. Your mature enough to take care of yourself and others in the event of having a kid, your spouse becoming ill, your parents, etc. In the eyes of most cultures in the world becoming married is true “adulthood”.
9. You are not in huge amounts of financial debt or ruin. You have a decent credit score or on the way to build it up- Once again money is not everything but being bankrupt or having poor credit means you are dragging another person and potentially future kids in it. Try to get out of it before getting married.
10. What you ultimately want in your 20’s and 30’s. If you want to raise a family and see yourself as a family person getting married along with these other above factors being covered earlier (think mid to late 20’s) is going to be more suitable to you because you will be able to have children easier and be young enough to be active and keep up with your young kids. If you see yourself as more career oriented and your main focus is not raising kids then getting married in your early 30’s- mid 30’s even is going to be more of an option.

*Benefits of younger marriage: more children, little to no risk of having kids with health problems, deformity (this is just science, the older you are the more risky and harder it is to have kids) , meet your partner early, tax benefits (true in US), you get a roommate (lol) life partner early on and don’t have to live at home, live alone, be with roommates longer, helps your career (marriage does make someone look more mature , serious, and grounded- aka less risky employee), happiness is higher when you are married/committed partnership than being single

*Benefits of older marriage: more time to flesh out your career by yourself, more time to discover and figure out yourself, less chance of you getting married to the wrong person or make a mistake because you are much older, come into the marriage with more money, higher job position, dating pool is much more serious than the dating pool of 20’s, having kids later allows you to have more money saved up for them, more financially stable household, get to live in potentially different cities, countries without guilt of transplanting spouse, kids because it’s just you.