Attraction is a funny thing. If you’re like many, you believe physical appearance is the driving force behind attractiveness. If you hold that belief, you’d be wrong.

While physical appearance plays a role, your thoughts and how you carry yourself are the dominant power behind attractiveness. You don’t have to be dressed in the latest trends or wear the right label to be attractive. You also don’t have to lose the pounds to attain your ideal body weight.

When we're kids, making friends seems like the easiest thing in the world. A simple "Hey, you like dinosaurs? I do too!" is sometimes all it takes to spark a brand-new bond. There's no analysis, no second-guessing—just an innocent connection over shared snacks, superheroes, or recess games.

But as we get older, the process becomes more complicated. That childlike ease is replaced with emotional baggage, misunderstandings, and expectations. Often, we continue using the same childlike criteria—shared interests or instant chemistry—to call someone a "friend" without really understanding what that title should mean. And that’s where things start to go sideways.